My Awakening to Rape
on October 17, 2008
Theme: culture : Germany : Goa : India : mother : rape : womenGoa Education Minister Atanasio Monseratte’s son Rohit, charged with allegedly raping a 14-year-old German girl, Tuesday managed to elude the police, even as his father maintained he was innocent. (Source)
The state police booked Rohit for alleged sexual and mental abuse of the 14-year-old girl and was charged with offences including rape, abetment to crime and outraging her modesty. (Source)
Some female acquaintances remarked that women have no reason to walk late at night and behave like **u** (the word) and attract attention.
I told them, “That’s because you want to get married and stay at home. You are working right now only to attract the highest earning man and make his home. All you are interested is in money and wealth.”
They didn’t respond and I continued casually.
“You can say that women can stay at home because you won’t mind doing so. Of course, the home has to be wealthy and your friend circle influential.”
“You are a dog”
“You can’t get a girl yourself so you are…”
“You don’t know how to talk to girls”
Many more praises were showered on me. Of course I don’t know how to talk to girls. I am unaware of the rules of the world.
Girls should stay at home because it has been discovered that they don’t have artistic talents and their desires are secondary.
That fourteen year old girl from Germany who was harassed and apparently raped by the son of a minister in Goa should have had friends like these girls who were angry with me for misbehaving with them.
They could have told the German girl the wisdom of being home dolls and informed her of the superior Indian culture on whose pretext women are not raped and killed regularly.
I should be sane and accept that it was the fault of the girl’s mother that her daughter got raped. She should not have given the mobile phone to her girl. Without a mobile phone there would have been no lewd messages to read.
The mother is in India for researching on Indian mythologies. She should know better about India’s glorious past where there is hardly any erotic literature; kamasutra was just a passing phase.
Like the real Indian mother-best mothers in the world according to Indian men-she should have closely guarded her daughter and never left her alone in hotels or car parks or public places. By her mere presence, the girl was inviting rape.
Of course, Indian rapists must rape so that they can tell their wife or friends about the difference in raping an Indian woman and a German woman. They at least have a strong purpose; what purpose did the mother achieve by giving freedom to her daughter and not guarding her constantly?
Let’s consider the Indian future of the German couple now; the girl would be called a **u* and the mother would be charged for neglect.
Since the girl is a **u*, it is ok to rape her because she is constantly ‘asking for it’. It is indeed a possibility that the mother must be a **u* as well and therefore she mustn’t complain if she is pawed in public. (Like this)
I am upset and feel that I am not a man since I am not raping or thinking about raping women; especially the ones who ask for it by being cloth-less or mother-less.
However, I do enjoy looking at them and inventing some sexy scenarios in my mind. I feel guilty about my thoughts after meeting these acquaintances. Maybe I should become pristine like them by being the kind of man they want; the one that earns money to domesticate a woman.
As for the mother Fadela Fuchs and her daughter; change your surname. It sounds like a popular abuse and implies that you are ‘asking for it’.
This girl, by Indian standards, is asking for it
Photograph by jmsuarez.
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You must talk to more women about this case and then write another story. There are women who subscribe to following the tradition of ‘domestication’.
And they are plenty in number.
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I must say I am confused about your stance — are you blaming women for rape or are yo just being sarcastic? It’s a bit hard to figure out. On the one hand you talk about women only working in order to find a wealthy man — which to me says you are a chauvinist. You also talk about the last name of the girl raped and the fact that her mother wasn’t keeping an eye on her in a way that suggests you are no different from the zillion men in India who think women ‘ask for’ rape. And yet, you talk about how you not thinking of rape in a mocking fashion which gets me confused.
I guess, in short — are you or are you not a chauvinist?
And do you, or do you not believe that it is women who are responsible for rape?
I haven’t read any of your prior posts, so I’m trying to base my opinion about you based on just this one.
Hope to get an answer.
Cheers!
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Hi Psych Babbler,
The confusion that is yours is also mine.
See, I told the girls that they are working to find a wealthy man because of what they told me. I have no problem with girls wearing mini skirts and and all. Prevents an eye sore you see
But then there are girls who feel that walking late at night and wearing less clothes makes them **u**.
Now what can I say to such women? They are themselves vilifying women-folk and don’t need any man to do that.
I can only say to such women that they want to be home birds and that is why they blame women for the cause of rape.
What can any man do in such a case?
These women also feel that the mother is responsible for giving freedom to her daughter. That is why those lines.
I was… ok I admit… a little hurt. It’s like I was being asked to become a chauvinist by the women.
What added fuel to my fire was that many people feel like these women.
Of course, the comment above yours says that many women also think that way… it has set my small mind thinking. How true is this?
Thank you for asking me your question. I love doing this stuff.
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I have only just seen your response to my question and I must say I am amazed that there are women that think this way. Then again, I guess I shouldn’t be as a woman can be another woman’s worst enemy. But it is a shame that such regressive thinking exists in a day and age when women are trying their best to break through the glass ceiling.
Cheers!
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Truth be Told
June 27th, 2011 at 02:15
A Woman is ALWAYS a Woman’s worst enemy. – Reason being socio-biology and evolutionary-biology being at play; every woman used to compete with other woman for resources from fit and able men who could provide them as well as produce fit offspring that could do the same.
Times may have changed and we may have evolved to a higher plane (although I doubt it) but we carry these instincts within i.e. competing with our own gender. Hence by the same not a man is always a man’s worst enemy.
As for the glass ceiling, let us not use outdated 60s 70s American feminist language – it is extremely archaic even to women who may identify as feminist.
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Santa
June 28th, 2011 at 10:41
I see your point. Just reading about mr. Ball the other day shook me up. I think we are wrongly trained to believe that we owe a lot to women. They are not really as innocent as made out to be.
No disrespect to the gender but if we are so bad, as slutwalks make it out to be, then don’t come near us at all. and don’t try to make men fall in line by becoming your buddies whom you can also marry and who will support you with their money.
As time passes, more men will complain I think.
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Hi Psych Babbler,
I think that you are right. A woman can be another woman’s worst enemy. And I am not even talking about Indian television serials
Much regressive thinking is also the result of women accepting the traditional role without questioning it.
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it is true that an astonishingly large number of women subscribe to the traditions of domestication. And what is scary is that a lot of educated well-to-do girls also fall into this category.
If one woman is trying to break through the glass ceiling, there will be five others waiting to pull her down.
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pathetic Indian guys like you should be sodomized(includes 90% of men in India) or lynched whichever is worse in your case.
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Truth be Told
June 27th, 2011 at 02:24
Sweet Heart I can see that you probably did not read our friend’s entire post or at he very least did not get the essence of what he was saying. The reason probably can be found in your name RocketQueen; isn’t that like a gal with a strap on dildo which could be the reason for your confused stupidity and your desire to sodomize poor pathetic Indian guys like him and probably me too and my dear where did you get the statistics of 90% – not your ass I hope.
Lastly do you know what lynching means because one does not look good asking or threating someone to be lynched. The only people who did that as a habit were the KKK to African Americans and the only people who asked for it were 60s 70s (Radical) Feminists who desired to do that to men in general, not surprising given that most of them were upper class white females must have inherited it from their mamas and papas in the KKK.
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