Is Tiger Woods’s Wife an Equal Partner?
on December 19, 2009
Kartikey Sehgal
[Written immediately after the ‘Tiger Woods Scandal’ obsession and kept aside. Sentences in brackets and italics are current, additional thoughts]
Tiger Woods’s wife should have forgiven him his extra-marital affairs. Who stands to gain; have the children benefited from this drama? Tiger Woods? Or has it ‘improved’ him or made him a ‘better’ man? Nobody except the wife stands to gain. She gains sympathy. And money, of course.
(private affair. Was she a good wife, mother. Has anybody investigated. There must be other ways of being ‘bad’ other than extra marital affairs)
Do you believe that a man has months and years long affairs with one, two… ten women and his wife knows nothing about it? If true, what does it speak about the communication level in the marriage?
Or do you believe, as it is being written about now, that the husband is a sex-addict for many years and the wife knows nothing about it? If she knows nothing about his habits and behaviour then what does it say about the married life of the couple?
(marriage ‘two-way street’. Possible there is lack of communication from either side)
She is, obviously, not fit to take custody of the children but law will aid her in her claims. That’s marriage for you. Never mind that Tiger could be a better father, and parent, for the children. Despite his affairs.
Tiger’s wife is considered not guilty and a good parent because she didn’t, apparently, have flings. You’d never bother to find if she is hateful, overtly manipulative, hysterical, or otherwise unfit to be a good parent and partner. Conversely, Tiger could be loving, cheerful, attentive and everything that should be a good father. Yet you’d look at the number of women he has bed.
Who is to say that Tiger’s wife was a good wife? Extra-marital affairs are not the only method of determining the goodness of an individual in a relationship. What do you say about some playboy who saves an eighty year lady by risking his life and what about a faithful husband who watches as a lady is assaulted in a train by some hoodlums? Whom would you trust children with?
Sex in all its ideologies and arrangements is an affair between Tiger and his wife. It is not the only basis of judging (why should you) his capability as a father. He has no compulsions—although he is apologising—to apologise to the world. He didn’t promise them monogamy.
(she gets half the money, then marriage is about money. If wife cheats, she is thrown out without money or any material gain to the man. Man cheats wife gets something. Are non-monogamous men worse than monogamous men and women.)
(And say Tiger is a guilty man, how does this automatically make his wife non-guilty?)
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Comments
Tiger’s tale gets more interesting every day.
Check out “Drive Like the Tiger” at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s2NQ9HA956I
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Right questions alright.
1. The question about how faithful Tiger Woods was is not answered by asking questions about their intimacy or the wife’s virtue.
2. As to why Tiger needs to apologise, here is a valuable post that discusses this issue impartially: Right to Know?, from which I quote this-
“In the case of Tiger Woods his being a golf professional clearly does not grant people the right to know about his private life. However, Tiger Woods went beyond being a gold professional and became a professional endorser of products ranging from razor blades to cars. In one commercial, the public was even invited in to see him reading a bedtime story to his child. As such, he was clearly establishing a relationship with the public that went beyond being a just a guy who swings a club.
“In such a role he crafted a reputation and image in the course of establishing a relationship with the public. The idea was, of course, that the public should trust his endorsements because he presented himself as the sort of person who could be trusted. After all, such endorsements presume the establishment of trust. While getting such endorsements depended on him being a great golfer, they also depended on him having a good reputation and a certain sort of image. As such, the image presented is a critical part of the relationship as well.
“By entering into such a relationship based on trust Woods thus gave the public a right to know about what lies behind that carefully crafted image. After all, he was using his image and reputation to sell products and the public would thus have a right to know whether the image and reputation were legitimate or not.”
There is more in the post, hope whoever reads this comment reads the whole post.
Regards,
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I had read that story though I didn’t get (at that time) how that was philosophy.
The people never realised that behind the images was a fat paycheck? They believed that a person has ceased to be a person on the demands of advertisers? Then they must be sadists who enjoy inflicting pain on successful people.
Tiger never promised monogamy to people. If he implied a ‘family man’ through his ads, did his wife do so as well. Will she be investigated to see if she lived up to the ‘image’. Would the children be subjected to questions.
Do non-monogamous men not use razors and drive cars.
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Why should him reading bedtime stories be of any indication that he’s trying to gain people’s trust? What would one say if some celebrity endorses alcohol?
Tiger shouldn’t be blamed for how the media works. It is the media that creates the image. Agreed, Tiger and his publicist do steer an image. But the “nice” Tiger that people see on screens wouldn’t be possible without the media.The same media that is now butchering him.
On the question of fidelity, my point is, when you agree to the bond of marriage, one agrees to a lot of conditions including, ideally, fidelity. Why agree to a bond if one cannot adhere to it?
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Well,he did cheat on his wife.
No amount of money to his wife can ever bring them back together.This should be a lesson for other wife cheaters.
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This is the key sentence: “By entering into such a relationship based on trust Woods thus gave the public a right to know about what lies behind that carefully crafted image.“. As for the question of Kartikey, “The people never realised that behind the images was a fat paycheck? “. Yes, of course. Why else would the advertisers drop Tiger now? Now that the trust and image are gone, people are not going to buy the shaving lotion that he recommends. Or briefs and vests for that matter.
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