Kartikey Sehgal

[Written immediately after the ‘Tiger Woods Scandal’ obsession and kept aside. Sentences in brackets and italics are current, additional thoughts]

Tiger Woods’s wife should have forgiven him his extra-marital affairs. Who stands to gain; have the children benefited from this drama? Tiger Woods? Or has it ‘improved’ him or made him a ‘better’ man? Nobody except the wife stands to gain. She gains sympathy. And money, of course.

(private affair. Was she a good wife, mother. Has anybody investigated. There must be other ways of being ‘bad’ other than extra marital affairs)

Do you believe that a man has months and years long affairs with one, two… ten women and his wife knows nothing about it? If true, what does it speak about the communication level in the marriage?

Or do you believe, as it is being written about now, that the husband is a sex-addict for many years and the wife knows nothing about it? If she knows nothing about his habits and behaviour then what does it say about the married life of the couple?

(marriage ‘two-way street’. Possible there is lack of communication from either side)

She is, obviously, not fit to take custody of the children but law will aid her in her claims. That’s marriage for you. Never mind that Tiger could be a better father, and parent, for the children. Despite his affairs.

Tiger’s wife is considered not guilty and a good parent because she didn’t, apparently, have flings. You’d never bother to find if she is hateful, overtly manipulative, hysterical, or otherwise unfit to be a good parent and partner. Conversely, Tiger could be loving, cheerful, attentive and everything that should be a good father. Yet you’d look at the number of women he has bed.

Who is to say that Tiger’s wife was a good wife? Extra-marital affairs are not the only method of determining the goodness of an individual in a relationship. What do you say about some playboy who saves an eighty year lady by risking his life and what about a faithful husband who watches as a lady is assaulted in a train by some hoodlums? Whom would you trust children with?

Sex in all its ideologies and arrangements is an affair between Tiger and his wife. It is not the only basis of judging (why should you) his capability as a father. He has no compulsions—although he is apologising—to apologise to the world. He didn’t promise them monogamy.

(she gets half the money, then marriage is about money. If wife cheats, she is thrown out without money or any material gain to the man. Man cheats wife gets something. Are non-monogamous men worse than monogamous men and women.)

(And say Tiger is a guilty man, how does this automatically make his wife non-guilty?)